posted by heartfelt on Sep 19
“HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER”
A WORD IN DUE SEASON!
I want to talk to you about honoring your father and mother for Mother’s Day/Father’s Day for the months of May and June. In Deuteronomy Chapter 5:16 it says, Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and that it may go well with you in the land the Lord your God is giving you. This is the fifth commandment of the bible we are to keep. Back in the old days if children did not honor their parents they were stoned to death. Read all of Deuteronomy 21:18-21. A mother nurtures and cares for her child just like the Lord cares for you. Isaiah 66:13, as a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you; and you will be comforted over Jerusalem. You may say, my mother was never there for me. She disowned me at a young age. I was sent to an orphanage and I was adopted and had no parents. She did not care anything about me. The bible says in Isaiah 49:15-16, “can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget you, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me.” God has not forgotten you and you are not a mistake! The bible says in Jeremiah 1:5, “before I formed you in the womb I knew you…” God knew about you before you were ever born and he loved you. Psalm 27:10 says, though my father and mother forsake me, The Lord will receive me.” That is how much God loves you! He sent his only begotten Son named Jesus to earth to die for you and give you eternal life. Father’s are not to mistreat their children but to bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord, Ephesians 6:4. Father’s are the disciplining factor in the family like your heavenly Father is. He disciplines us for our good so we may share in Christ’s holiness. He does not punish us to harm us but he corrects us when we are wrong because he loves us. That is what our humanly father’s do also. Read Hebrews chapter 12 in your spare time. It talks about “God Disciplines His Sons.” You may say, how can God love me when my own mother and father never even wanted me? God knew about you and loved you before you ever even knew him. Romans 5:8 says, But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we are still sinners, Christ died for us. God had a good plan for your life long ago. Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. God has a good plan for your life. Psalm 20:4, May he give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed. Do you want God’s good plan for your life? Do you feel lonely, unloved, forgotten & rejected? God wants to wrap his arms of love around you. He cares for you very much. It doesn’t matter what you’ve done or where you’ve been. Come as you are to the cross of Christ. Say, “Dear Jesus, I feel all alone & unloved. Lord, I need you to wrap your arms of love around me and show me what true love is. Forgive me of my past sins, come into my heart and save me. Although my father & mother forsook me, I know that you will never forsake me. Thank you for dying for me and giving me eternal life. I receive your great plan for my life, in Jesus’ name. Amen.” If you said that prayer and meant, I want you to know God loves you very much and he has a great plan in store for you! Walk with him daily. Read God’s word, fellowship with other Christians, and find a church that preaches the whole word of God. God is your father and mother, a sure friend indeed. He sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24, A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. God bless you, Jesus loves you!
~ A Parent’s Love ~
I gave you life,
but I cannot live it for you.
I can teach you things,
but I cannot make you learn.
I can give you directions,
but I cannot be there to lead you.
I can allow you freedom,
but I cannot account for it.
I can teach you right from wrong,
but I cannot always decide for you.
I can buy you beautiful clothes,
but I cannot make you beautiful inside.
I can offer you advice,
but I cannot accept it for you.
I can give you love,
but I cannot force it upon you.
I can teach you to share,
but I cannot make you unselfish.
I can teach you respect,
but I cannot force you to show honor.
I can advise you about friends,
but I cannot choose them for you.
I can advise you about sex,
but I cannot keep you pure.
I can tell you the facts of life,
but I cannot build your reputation.
I can tell you about drinking,
but I cannot say, “No” for you.
I can warn you about drugs,
but I cannot prevent you from using them.
I can tell you about lofty goals,
but I cannot achieve them for you.
I can teach you about kindness,
but I cannot force you to be gracious.
I can warn you about wrong-doings,
but I cannot make you moral.
I can tell you how to live,
but I cannot give you eternal life.
I can love you with unconditional love all of my life…
AND I WILL!!!!
~ Author Unknown ~
Father’s Day Blessings
Father, We Can Depend On You
To Always Be There
For Us, Too
We Thank You For Your Hard Work
And Faithfulness To Us
Never Making A Fuss
Thank You For Your Help
In Time Of Need
You Are A Sure Friend
You Are Like Our Heavenly Father
We Can Always Come To You
In Times Of Trouble
You Are Always There
For Us, Too
No Matter What We Go Through
You Never Let Us Down
We Never Have To Wear A Frown
You Come To Our Rescue
May This Day Be
The Kind Of Day
In Every Way
We Love You,
Happy Father’s Day
Written By: Dawn O’brien
And Inspired By The Holy Spirit
Copyright © 2005
MOTHERS DAY HISTORY
The history of Mother’s Day is centuries old and goes back to the times of ancient Greeks, who held festivities to honor Rhea, the mother of the gods. The early Christians celebrated the Mother’s festival on the fourth Sunday of Lent to honor Mary, the mother of Christ. Interestingly, later on a religious order stretched the holiday to include all mothers, and named it as the Mothering Sunday. The English colonists settled in America discontinued the tradition of Mothering Sunday because of lack of time. In 1872 Julia Ward Howe organized a day for mothers dedicated to peace. It is a landmark in the history of Mother’s Day.
In 1907, Anna M. Jarvis (1864-1948), a Philadelphia schoolteacher, began a movement to set up a national Mother’s Day in honor of her mother, Ann Maria Reeves Jarvis. She solicited the help of hundreds of legislators and prominent businessmen to create a special day to honor mothers. The first Mother’s Day observance was a church service honoring Anna’s mother. Anna handed out her mother’s favorite flowers, the white incarnations, on the occasion as they represent sweetness, purity, and patience. Anna’s hard work finally paid off in the year 1914, when President Woodrow Wilson proclaimed the second Sunday in May as a national holiday in honor of mothers.
Slowly and gradually the Mother’s day became very popular and gift giving activity increased. All this commercialization of the Mother’s day infuriated Anna as she believed that the day’s sentiment was being sacrificed at the expense of greed and profit. Regardless of Jarvis’s worries, Mother’s Day has flourished in the United States. Actually, the second Sunday of May has become the most popular day of the year. Although Anna may not be with us but the Mother’s day lives on and has spread to various countries of the world.
FATHER’S DAY HISTORY
Sonora Dodd, of Washington, first had the idea of a “father’s day.” She thought of the idea for Father’s Day while listening to a Mother’s Day sermon in 1909.Sonora wanted a special day to honor her father, William Smart. Smart, who was a Civil War veteran, was widowed when his wife died while giving birth to their sixth child. Mr. Smart was left to raise the newborn and his other five children by himself on a rural farm in eastern Washington state. After Sonora became an adult she realized the selflessness her father had shown in raising his children as a single parent. It was her father that made all the parental sacrifices and was, in the eyes of his daughter, a courageous, selfless, and loving man. Sonora’s father was born in June, so she chose to hold the first Father’s Day celebration in Spokane, Washington on the 19th of June, 1910. President Calvin Coolidge, in 1924, supported the idea of a national Father’s Day. Then in 1966 President Lyndon Johnson signed a presidential proclamation declaring the 3rd Sunday of June as Father’s Day. President Richard Nixon signed the law which finally made it permanent in 1972.
A Parents Prayer
Oh, God, make me a better parent.
Help me to understand my children,
to listen patiently to what they have to say
and to answer all their questions kindly.
Keep me from interrupting them,
talking back to them and contradicting them.
Make me as courteous to them
as I would have them be to me.
Give me the courage to confess my sins
against my children and to ask of them forgiveness,
when I know that I have done them wrong.
May I not vainly hurt the feelings of my children.
Forbid that I should laugh at their mistakes or
resort to shame and ridicule as punishment.
Let me not tempt a child to lie and steal.
So guide me hour by hour that I may demonstrate
by all I say and do that honestly produces happiness.
Reduce, I pray, the meanness in me.
May I cease to nag:
and when I am out of sorts,
help me, O Lord, to hold my tongue.
Blind me to the little errors of my children
and help me to see the good things that they do.
Give me a ready word for honest praise.
Help to treat my children as those of their own age,
but let me not exact of them the judgments
and conventions of adults.
Allow me not to rob them of the opportunity
to wait upon themselves,
to think, to choose, and to make decisions.
Forbid that I should ever punish them
for my self satisfaction.
May I grant them all of their wishes that are
and have the courage always to
withhold a privilege that I know will do them harm.
Guidance & Discipline Techniques
Disciplining children is not easy. You won’t always feel good about how you handle a situation. It’s important to recognize that you are human. It’s hard to be calm when it would be easier to start screaming to get their attention. The most important thing to remember is talking works much better than hitting and praise works much better than belittling. One approach to discipline that you should never consider is becoming physical with a child. Violence breeds violence and is very dangerous to a child’s or adult’s self-esteem . There is no one right way to discipline. An approach that is successful in one situation may not work in another. The following are some approaches that you can use.
Setting Up a Safe Environment
- Children move quickly and they love to climb and explore. Take a close look at your home indoors and outdoors. A fenced-in yard will help keep children away from the streets.
- Childproof your home by locking up dangerous chemicals and medicines.
- Problems often arise when children do not have enough toys or materials to play with. A safe place to play and appropriate toys to play with can save you from saying “No” too often and make your day easier.
- In this day of computers and chat rooms, and so many web sites available, children of all ages should be monitored very closely while using the computer. It’s a good idea to be close by while your child is using it and always be aware of how to block unwanted web sites.
Internet Safety Tips for Kids
- Establish a Predictable Routine! Kids need routines and schedules. Their stomachs and high energy levels need nutritious snacks and meals. Establish consistent times for eating, napping for younger kids, and play or leisure time. This helps kids to learn how to pace themselves.
- In our busy lives it is sometimes hard to make sure the entire family is together at one time. Try having everyone meet at home in time for the evening meal. It is a great way to set a schedule and a way for everyone to share their day together as a family.
- Set a Good Example
- Kids of all ages love to imitate adults. Watch your habits because children will be sure to be copying them.
- If you want your kids to treat each other kindly or have good eating habits, be sure to demonstrate how to do it.
- Talk about what you do, and explain why in simple terms. The little ones may not fully understand everything you say, but they will begin to understand that there are reasons for doing things a certain way.
- Children also learn a great deal from each other. Encourage appropriate ways to share and play and be consistent.
- A little praise goes a long way! It encourages learning, independence, and strong self-esteem. The key to effective praise is to be a coach more than a cheerleader.
- A cheerleader might say, “Great Job!” A coach gives specific praise to teach and instill self worth. For example, when a child sets the table, you might say, “You did such a good job setting the table! You put the spoons and forks in the right place and remembered the napkins.
- Remove or Isolate
- When a child is running out into the street or about to get into an unsafe situation, there is no time for negotiation. You must remove them from the danger. A child may protest loudly, but your primary responsibility is to keep him safe. Sometimes quick action is the only response.
- Time Out
- Is just that – a cooling off period. When a child is misbehaving or out of control, he needs to be removed or isolated for a few minutes.
- Time out can be used with kids ages 3 to 12. For younger kids time out needs to be no longer than 5 minutes or else they will forget the reason for the time out.
- Follow up by talking with the child about the reason for the time out. With older kids time out can mean being grounded or restricted to their rooms for a period of time.
- The punishment should be equal to the offense.
- Behavior that is not harmful to the child or others can be ignored. The goal is to have the child stop the undesirable behavior by not paying attention to it.
- This can be effective in some situations with older toddlers and preschoolers. Try withholding all attention praise, and support. Without the desired attention the child eventually quits whatever they are doing.
- Ignoring really means no attention at all, but if you feel you must respond, you might try “active ignoring.” You may wish to make a casual statement like. “You can scream out here in the hall where it won’t bother me.”
- The Problem Solving Approach
- Sometimes children have a behavioral problem that seems to happen over and over. When nothing seems to be working, try the who, what, when, where, and how method.
- Ask yourself, “When does the troublesome behavior seem to happen?” “What happens just before and after?” “Where does it happen and with whom?” “How do I usually respond?” “How could I prevent the behavior?” “What other approaches could I use?”
- Take time to sit down and think about the problem. It can help you find a more successful way to handle things.
- Watch your Language – Use your words carefully and focus on what to do rather than what not to do. Never use profanity with your kids because they will begin to use profanity too!
- TRY SAYING: “Slow down and walk” INSTEAD OF: “Stop Running”
- TRY SAYING: “Come and sit by me” INSTEAD OF: “Don’t sit over there”
TRY SAYING: “Use your quiet voice” INSTEAD OF: “Stop screaming and shouting”Praying Mother
A mother who is
Always on her knees
Bringing to the altar
Her Ernest pleas
God hears every cry
Wipes her tears dry
Praying for that
Daughter or son
Wishing they would
Come back to Jesus
The victory has been won
Even though our sins are
More than a few
Christ took away our shame
And made all things new
A mother prays
Offering up to God
Our daily concerns in a big way!
Written by Dawn O’brien
And Inspired by the Holy Spirit
Copyright © 2006
Recap For The Month May and June
Dear precious saints,
These re-caps will always be a little behind so I can inform you of what is happening. We take one day at a time and God is opening new doors daily. Please pray that God would send us more volunteers because I am getting very busy. Most of the work is done by God and us alone. The burden is getting too heavy but you and I know God always comes through at the last minute when we are sitting on the edge of our seat waiting. You and I must keep enduring and trusting him especially in these final days we are living in before the coming of our Savior! Here is a brief look at what we have been doing. March 14th I had the opportunity to meet the Mayor of Orlando, a Commissioner and the asst. to the Governor of Florida. We set up a booth at the Hispanic Health Initiatives. Remember, that petition we are trying to pass for the youth on drinking/driving. They are going to get the word out. We were also able to speak to the Spanish Community. One of our volunteers did the interpreting for us and many doors for speaking engagements came open. A Spanish magazine wants to do an article on us. They were very good to us and they have an event in June at the camp grounds and they have asked me to set up a booth there as well. March 21st I attended Orlando Mayor Buddy Dyer’s Neighborhood & Community Summit which I met a lot of different organizations and I took some classes that were offered on grant writing. At the end of March, I was at an event where Congresswoman Corrine Brown had and I was able to meet some new faces. Then in April for Good Friday, we went to Consulate Health Care where I distributed communion for the elders in the nursing home. On Easter, we went back there and passed out poetry I write, put stickers and confetti in plastic eggs to give to the people a little something. They are like little children. Then I gave a word to them at lunchtime and we sang some old hymns. They were blessed and so were we to see how the Holy Spirit moved that morning. God’s presence was felt on Good Friday and Easter. We serve an amazing God! The following week April 18-19, we set up a booth at the 16th annual Hispanic Business & Consumer Expo at the Orange County Convention Center. This was a big event with several sponsors like Orlando Magic, Local channel 6, The Orlando Sentinel and others. I had an opportunity to go around the different booths and connect with different chambers of commerce like Brazil, Puerto Rico and Asia. Many newspapers I need to contact and a Christian radio station as well. I was able to speak to someone fro Orlando Magic, the basketball team. I found out what we need to do to get one of their basket ball players who do the public speaking to help us on our video we are still working on for the kids in school. I contacted our video crew and we have to send over papers on letter head to find a time to shoot the video. I am now taking the role of a public speaker officer for Brain Injury of Orlando Support group-www.orlandobraininjurysupport.org which I believe will open up several new doors. My goal is to shoot the video in there at one of our monthly meetings where I can speak and we can interview Marie-Terese, who is the chairman and get the Brain Injury Association of Florida involved. This is a lot of work but we know in God’s timing He will bring everything together! We continually think of you and pray for you daily. May our Lord keep you strong in him and encourage you always to continue serving Him in Christ’s power! Happy Mother’s Day and Father’s Day to all the parents.
We love you with the agape love of Yeshua
God bless you!
Love & Prayers,
Daniel & Dawn O’brien and the Ministry Team of Dawn’s Heartfelt Corner